Confronting the Fear Factor


An excerpt from my new book The Dimensional Leader:

Football

My son was an outstanding football player who played first-string positions in offense, defense and special teams on his High School prep football team. He played so often, he rarely got a break on the sidelines to catch a breath of fresh air. The joke around our house posed in question form was, “Man, are they ever going to allow you a breather between plays?”

His genesis in football, however, was dismal at best. I wondered if he would ever play the game well, until one day he had a metamorphosis of his own. Prior to his high school years he played in the Nevada Youth Football League. He had never played the game before but passionately desired to do so. However, he had one small problem; he was timid when it came to tackling others, which is a major part of playing the game. Whenever he would face an oncoming tackle, he would grab on and wait for some of his teammates to join in on the tackle. It was obvious to the casual observer that my son was fearful of hurting someone or being hurt himself. This was a personal constraint line he imposed upon himself. In my best estimation, the line of resistance in his life was probably fear due to a lack of knowledge and experience.

One day there was an option play taking the running back around the side and down the sidelines. My son was playing the defensive end position and followed the play well. He ran toward the sidelines, gaining so much momentum along the way, that he just happened to meet the running back on the sideline at the right angle, at the right time and with the right amount of speed and force. He had no other option but to plow him over by his shear momentum. It was a great site for any father to see as both of them went crashing down, kicking up dirt and grass as they tumbled together on the green turf. As he got off the ground I knew something had shifted; there was a monumental change in his stride, as he strutted back to the huddle with a newfound identity. It was during this time, I discerned his fear for tackling his opponents had lifted, and he had gained a new level of confidence as a gridiron man. He had crossed over the line of demarcation between fear and reality. When he got back into the huddle, the team celebrated by smacking his helmet with their hands, a sign of acceptance into an elite fraternity of gridiron men.

In ensuing plays, I noticed he was not intimidated anymore. For him tackling was not a bad thing after all. He had tasted the experience of a tackle and liked it; therefore, he crossed the line of demarcation, separating himself from his fear of tackling others. My son had broken through a line of resistance in his life. From that noticeable event, he went on to have many more successful prep football seasons as an all around team player.

The fear factor is probably the most debilitating line of resistance for many people. However, with the right words of encouragement coupled with commitment, anyone can break the fear barrier. This treatise shows you how you can do it.

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#Latinos Must Grasp the Concept Known as Convergence


In my newly released book The Dimensional Leader, I briefly discuss the concept of convergence. A critical concept Latinos must grasp. Here’s an excerpt from my book:

ConvergenceDo you know what convergence means? It is when two critical points intersect with each other in time. I believe it is when your entire life’s preparation, the accumulation of ‘who you are” and ‘all you know’, combined with what you are currently sensing (seeing and hearing) converges with an opportune time; an intersection or entry point where opportunity presents itself for your promotion. This promotion is seized only if you can recognize it and enter into its new flow. The Greeks referred to this moment as kairos (καιρός), a word indicating “an opportune moment” to act upon an open window, which will usher you much closer to your destiny. You and I must be vigilant and discern when this time or day arrives, so we can take advantage of its offerings. David discerned his kairos moment when he “heard” Goliath’s threat (1 Samuel 17:34) on the battle lines. David, at this point, sensed his opportunity to act; the reason why he was sent to the battle-lines.

Convergence is a time of promotion; a time when you intersect with a key person or significant event in your life, which will propel you further into your destiny. Will you be able to recognize this day or event when it arrives? What are you doing today to prepare yourself for this appointed day in time? Convergence is not a once in a lifetime event; many opportunities for convergence present themselves throughout your life.

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Excerpt from @LatinoTownhall’s Workshop with #Latino Youth by Pastor Christian Falcon


Summary of what was spoken at the 11th Annual Lawrence Weekly Latino Youth Summit in Las Vegas:

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An old proverb says, “Do you see a man skilled in his work he will serve before kings and not before obscure men.” Notice it says a skilled man and not a talented man. Therefore, a skilled person who does an excellent job will serve among the great, because the great is looking for such men and women. But there will be obstacles that a skilled man or woman will face.

The first obstacle is comparison. If Margaret Thatcher compared herself to others, mainly male predecessors, she would never have been the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom.

Next is the obstacle of fear. What do Bill gates, Steve jobs, and Sam Walton have in common? They conquered their fear. They conquered the fear of embarrassment, the fear of failure, and the fear of being different. Now, they are household names.

The final obstacle Latinos will face is that of rejection. My father, for example, was denied a manager’s position in the Department of Transportation. He kept trying, and finally attained his goal. Now, he is the first Hispanic of manager of D.O.T. in the West Coast.
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Christian Falcon, at twenty-two years of age, is an ordained minister whose vision is to see people touched, transformed and closer to Jesus Christ. From the age of 14 he started traveling to various places in the United States, South America and Europe to preach in various congregations, feed the poor and cloth the naked. The result; people saved, healed, delivered and transformed in Christ. Now Christian is the Pastor if ICDN and Fernando Foundation Power Soccer in Atlanta, Georgia.

#Latinos, Don’t Allow Criticism to Hold You Back


In my book The Dimensional Leader, I talk about how criticism can have a negative impact on the weak-minded to keep a person from manifesting their best. Criticism often comes at the point where Best-Ways-To-Deal-With-Negative-Criticismopportunity presents itself; a point in time when your promotion is about to happen. Some person jealous of your next step in life will arise to say something out of line to demean you and your efforts, so you can second-guess yourself. Criticism happens for the purpose of defusing your resolve to move forward; to enter the next level of being and doing. How has criticism kept you back in the past? When you attempt something noble, does a little voice in the back of your head say something like, “You can’t do it!”, “You are not able!”? If the voice of criticism is keeping you from accomplishing a goal or moving forward into the next place hand-made for you, then you got a problem with that little critic in your head. It could be a person close to you, who for some reason said something out of line. Oh, they really did not mean to slander you. It was just something said “out of character” but the lingering affects of those words remain, embedded in your head. So, you continue living in rejection and performance apathy. This is no way to live your life.

How do you get rid of that critic constantly barraging you every time you step out to do something different that will garner you happiness? Buy my book for the answer.

#Latinos, Are You Defeating the Giants in Your Life?


bookpromopic.jpg-large THE DIMENSIONAL LEADER is a book that discusses the leadership strategies of a shepherd boy named David, who would become one of the greatest kings Israel ever had on the throne. Most of us are familiar with the story. Many of us, however, are befuddled on how a teenager could take down such a prized and renowned fighter, but he did. This book reveals how the young man navigated wisely through the crowd and the noise to defeat the giant. Are you willing to confront the insidious giants in your life? If so, read on.

When we read about David’s great triumph over Goliath we simply bypass two previous encounters – Eliab, David’s eldest brother and King Saul, the flustered and reluctant leader of Israel. David had to navigate through these two individuals first to get to his ultimate goal – that of confronting and defeating the malicious behemoth, and thus, wiping away the reproach from Israel. I am positive there have been times in our lives where you and I have had this thought, “I want to be like David.” However, we do not realize the price it took David to achieve a level of leadership mastery. Somehow we bypass those elements of personal sacrifice and testing in the shadows; the hidden places and events, which shaped David’s character. We have the tendency to look upon those who have succeeded as one of God’s favorite kids who were given a free pass to greatness, and somehow everything was handed over to them on a silver platter. This way of thinking is not realistic, nor fair for those who have achieved a level of greatness among us.

Greatness comes with a price tag. In other words, anyone who has ever had some legacy worth talking about had to overcome personal challenges and overcome barriers, which catapulted them to a new and improved station in life. It may have been they were willing to confront their fears, which kept them limited and regulated to a mediocre and mundane life. These champions of life succeeded somehow, because they were able to cross what I call the lines of resistance.

A line of resistance is a force seen or unseen, which works against you to constrain you or impose a limitation by restricting you from achieving your dreams, your goals and ultimately your destiny. A line of resistance is also a roadblock or barrier to stop you from moving forward. A line of resistance can eventually create a limiting mindset, a negative attitude, even a habitual pattern, which hinders you from accessing and pursuing your goals, to the point of discouraging you from actualizing your true potential and purpose in life. In the natural realm, a line of resistance can come from the people around you. In the spiritual realm, the lines of resistance arise from Satan and his hoard of demons. In a personal sense, many lines of resistance already exist in our fallen nature, producing destructive patterns in our life. At other times your lines of resistance can be produced when something dramatic occurs in your past where a negative history was created. This negative event in your life may have produced an insecurity, which is now rooted in fear and controls you. If this is true, you then begin to build an image about yourself, which is not based on reality.

The lines of resistance can be self-imposed or they can come from well meaning people, like our close friends or family members. For instance, someone can give us erroneous counsel diverting us down the wrong road from our destiny for many years. This is why parents, mentors, clergy, and others play a pivotal role in developing and directing the lives of young people. If we “buy-into” these limitations we can end up living on the wrong side of the tracks, instead of what could be — a life of mastery, filled with abundant living.

Have you ever taken an inventory of your life to find out what can be possible? Have you ever challenged yourself to break out of the old mindsets that keep you where you are? This book will challenge you to identify, confront and traverse over those debilitating lines of resistance, which have kept you from experiencing a life above and beyond your true and rightful potential. Be challenged and enjoy! Joel C. Garcia

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Life Coaching for Teens


Life Coaching for Teens is a leadership workbook I put together to aid Latino youth, which explores topics on the essential foundations in leadership development.

I am making the PDF copy available to you to use in the training and development of Latino youth.

Link: Life Coaching for Teens _ Seminar Version

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The Preface of My New Book: The Dimensional #Leader


This book discusses the qualities of the dimensional leader, which any person seeking a leadership role should seek to develop and master over time. As spatial dimensions contain three spheres of width, height and length, so the dimensional leader model exudes the three dimensional qualities of character, competence and communication. David was the consummate dimensional leader, who displayed these three qualities from his inaugural scene, at the time he fought and defeated Goliath, and throughout his entire life as the leader and commander of Israel’s army. David’s leadership legacy is summed up in an obscure passage in Psalm 78:72, where the dimensional leader’s paradigm is revealed:

And David shepherded them with integrity of heart [character]; with skillful hands [competence] he led [communication] them.

This passage of scripture has been written as David’s epitaph; a one sentence summation of his leadership legacy. Any thoughtful reader of this passage should pause for a moment to deliberate its substance and significance, to ponder its hidden treasures. It won’t take you very long before the hidden gems burst forth, revealing the transformative qualities effective leaders should cultivate and master over time.

The subtitle may have also left you asking, “What can a shepherd boy teach me about leadership?” The answer is obvious; a shepherd boy has already taught us principles about leadership, especially how a dimensional leader thinks and acts in times of great challenge. We just need to dive deeper into the story to exhume purpose for our lives today.

When we read about David’s great triumph over Goliath we simply bypass two previous encounters – Eliab, David’s eldest brother and King Saul, the flustered and reluctant leader of Israel. David had to navigate through these two individuals first to get to his ultimate goal – that of confronting and defeating the malicious behemoth, and thus, wiping away the reproach from Israel.

I am positive there have been times in our lives where you and I have had this thought, “I want to be like David.” However, we do not realize the price it took David to achieve a level of leadership mastery. Somehow we bypass those elements of personal sacrifice and testing in the shadows; the hidden places and events, which shaped David’s character. We have the tendency to look upon those who have succeeded as one of God’s favorite kids who were given a free pass to greatness, and somehow everything was handed over to them on a silver platter. This way of thinking is not realistic, nor fair for those who have achieved a level of greatness among us. Greatness comes with a price tag. In other words, anyone who has ever had some legacy worth talking about had to overcome personal challenges and overcome barriers, which catapulted them to a new and improved station in life. It may have been they were willing to confront their fears, which kept them limited and regulated to a mediocre and mundane life. These champions of life succeeded somehow, because they were able to cross what I call the lines of resistance.

A line of resistance is a force seen or unseen, which works against you to constrain you or impose a limitation by restricting you from achieving your dreams, your goals and ultimately your destiny. A line of resistance is also a roadblock or barrier to stop you from moving forward. A line of resistance can eventually create a limiting mindset, a negative attitude, even a habitual pattern, which hinders you from accessing and pursuing your goals, to the point of discouraging you from actualizing your true potential and purpose in life.

In the natural realm, a line of resistance can come from the people around you. In the spiritual realm, the lines of resistance arise from Satan and his hoard of demons. In a personal sense, many lines of resistance already exist in our fallen nature, producing destructive patterns in our life. At other times your lines of resistance can be produced when something dramatic occurs in your past where a negative history was created. This negative event in your life may have produced an insecurity, which is now rooted in fear and controls you. If this is true, you then begin to build an image about yourself, which is not based on reality.

David was confronted by three people, each one tried to restrict and limit him in some manner from succeeding on his mission. These three individuals attempted to create lines of resistance in David’s life.

1. Eliab – David’s brother represents the line of criticism.

2. King Saul – David’s leader represents the line of authority.

3. Goliath – David’s archenemy represents the line of fear and intimidation.

The lines of resistance can be self-imposed or they can come from well meaning people, like our close friends or family members. For instance, someone can give us erroneous counsel diverting us down the wrong road from our destiny for many years. This is why parents, mentors, clergy, and others play a pivotal role in developing and directing the lives of young people. If we “buy-into” these limitations we can end up living on the wrong side of the tracks, instead of what could be — a life of mastery, filled with abundant living.

Have you ever taken an inventory of your life to find out what can be possible? Have you ever challenged yourself to break out of the old mindsets that keep you where you are? This book will challenge you to identify, confront and traverse over those debilitating lines of resistance, which have kept you from experiencing a life above and beyond your true and rightful potential.

Be challenged and enjoy!

Joel

NOTE: You will be able to purchase The Dimensional Leader – The Leadership Strategies of a Shepherd Boy