#Latinos, Don’t Allow Criticism to Hold You Back


In my book The Dimensional Leader, I talk about how criticism can have a negative impact on the weak-minded to keep a person from manifesting their best. Criticism often comes at the point where Best-Ways-To-Deal-With-Negative-Criticismopportunity presents itself; a point in time when your promotion is about to happen. Some person jealous of your next step in life will arise to say something out of line to demean you and your efforts, so you can second-guess yourself. Criticism happens for the purpose of defusing your resolve to move forward; to enter the next level of being and doing. How has criticism kept you back in the past? When you attempt something noble, does a little voice in the back of your head say something like, “You can’t do it!”, “You are not able!”? If the voice of criticism is keeping you from accomplishing a goal or moving forward into the next place hand-made for you, then you got a problem with that little critic in your head. It could be a person close to you, who for some reason said something out of line. Oh, they really did not mean to slander you. It was just something said “out of character” but the lingering affects of those words remain, embedded in your head. So, you continue living in rejection and performance apathy. This is no way to live your life.

How do you get rid of that critic constantly barraging you every time you step out to do something different that will garner you happiness? Buy my book for the answer.

The Preface of My New Book: The Dimensional #Leader


This book discusses the qualities of the dimensional leader, which any person seeking a leadership role should seek to develop and master over time. As spatial dimensions contain three spheres of width, height and length, so the dimensional leader model exudes the three dimensional qualities of character, competence and communication. David was the consummate dimensional leader, who displayed these three qualities from his inaugural scene, at the time he fought and defeated Goliath, and throughout his entire life as the leader and commander of Israel’s army. David’s leadership legacy is summed up in an obscure passage in Psalm 78:72, where the dimensional leader’s paradigm is revealed:

And David shepherded them with integrity of heart [character]; with skillful hands [competence] he led [communication] them.

This passage of scripture has been written as David’s epitaph; a one sentence summation of his leadership legacy. Any thoughtful reader of this passage should pause for a moment to deliberate its substance and significance, to ponder its hidden treasures. It won’t take you very long before the hidden gems burst forth, revealing the transformative qualities effective leaders should cultivate and master over time.

The subtitle may have also left you asking, “What can a shepherd boy teach me about leadership?” The answer is obvious; a shepherd boy has already taught us principles about leadership, especially how a dimensional leader thinks and acts in times of great challenge. We just need to dive deeper into the story to exhume purpose for our lives today.

When we read about David’s great triumph over Goliath we simply bypass two previous encounters – Eliab, David’s eldest brother and King Saul, the flustered and reluctant leader of Israel. David had to navigate through these two individuals first to get to his ultimate goal – that of confronting and defeating the malicious behemoth, and thus, wiping away the reproach from Israel.

I am positive there have been times in our lives where you and I have had this thought, “I want to be like David.” However, we do not realize the price it took David to achieve a level of leadership mastery. Somehow we bypass those elements of personal sacrifice and testing in the shadows; the hidden places and events, which shaped David’s character. We have the tendency to look upon those who have succeeded as one of God’s favorite kids who were given a free pass to greatness, and somehow everything was handed over to them on a silver platter. This way of thinking is not realistic, nor fair for those who have achieved a level of greatness among us. Greatness comes with a price tag. In other words, anyone who has ever had some legacy worth talking about had to overcome personal challenges and overcome barriers, which catapulted them to a new and improved station in life. It may have been they were willing to confront their fears, which kept them limited and regulated to a mediocre and mundane life. These champions of life succeeded somehow, because they were able to cross what I call the lines of resistance.

A line of resistance is a force seen or unseen, which works against you to constrain you or impose a limitation by restricting you from achieving your dreams, your goals and ultimately your destiny. A line of resistance is also a roadblock or barrier to stop you from moving forward. A line of resistance can eventually create a limiting mindset, a negative attitude, even a habitual pattern, which hinders you from accessing and pursuing your goals, to the point of discouraging you from actualizing your true potential and purpose in life.

In the natural realm, a line of resistance can come from the people around you. In the spiritual realm, the lines of resistance arise from Satan and his hoard of demons. In a personal sense, many lines of resistance already exist in our fallen nature, producing destructive patterns in our life. At other times your lines of resistance can be produced when something dramatic occurs in your past where a negative history was created. This negative event in your life may have produced an insecurity, which is now rooted in fear and controls you. If this is true, you then begin to build an image about yourself, which is not based on reality.

David was confronted by three people, each one tried to restrict and limit him in some manner from succeeding on his mission. These three individuals attempted to create lines of resistance in David’s life.

1. Eliab – David’s brother represents the line of criticism.

2. King Saul – David’s leader represents the line of authority.

3. Goliath – David’s archenemy represents the line of fear and intimidation.

The lines of resistance can be self-imposed or they can come from well meaning people, like our close friends or family members. For instance, someone can give us erroneous counsel diverting us down the wrong road from our destiny for many years. This is why parents, mentors, clergy, and others play a pivotal role in developing and directing the lives of young people. If we “buy-into” these limitations we can end up living on the wrong side of the tracks, instead of what could be — a life of mastery, filled with abundant living.

Have you ever taken an inventory of your life to find out what can be possible? Have you ever challenged yourself to break out of the old mindsets that keep you where you are? This book will challenge you to identify, confront and traverse over those debilitating lines of resistance, which have kept you from experiencing a life above and beyond your true and rightful potential.

Be challenged and enjoy!

Joel

NOTE: You will be able to purchase The Dimensional Leader – The Leadership Strategies of a Shepherd Boy

The Workplace Runt



Have you taken an assessment of your workplace culture, and noticed there is someone on the team who seems to be, for lack of a better word, the “runt of the litter”? You know what a runt is, right? In a litter of animals the runt is the one with a disadvantage because of its rank and stature among the litter; it’s weaker than others, and perhaps less likely to defend itself and survive. The workplace has “runts” as well. What I mean is the one employee everyone seems to single out, demean or gossip about during lunch or the break room. “Runts” are not bad people, they are just misunderstood. How serious is this problem in the workplace? Well, the Online article How Serious a Problem is Workplace Bullying?, notes:

Research indicates workplace bullying often involves an abuse or misuse of power that can include behavior that intimidates, degrades, offends or humiliates a worker, often in front of others. More often than not, bullying behavior at work creates feelings of defenselessness and undermines an individual’s right to dignity at work. It has been found that many bullying situations involve employees bullying their peers, rather than a supervisor bullying an employee.”

The Department of Labor and Industries provides examples of workplace bullying:

  • Unwarranted or invalid criticism.

  • Blame without factual justification.

  • Being treated differently than the rest of your work group.

  • Being sworn at.

  • Exclusion or social isolation.

  • Being shouted at or being humiliated.

  • Being the target of practical jokes.

  • Excessive monitoring.

So why do some employees do this to others? I have three thoughts about this matter:

1. Having a “runt” employee makes us feel better about ourselves

We feel better about ourselves when there is someone else we can demean or pick on at work. Personal insecurity breeds a level of disrespect in the workplace. Have you ever worked with someone where the problem lies with everyone else instead of one’s own performance? Of course you have. It’s easier to point the finger than see our own reflection in the mirror.

2. Having a “runt” employee deflects our personal flaws onto someone else

We all have flaws of some kind; the list varies from person to person. However, having a runt employee deflects all of our own personal flaws onto someone else, and of course, we are blind to our own. It’s easier to deflect than to own up to the obvious.

3. Having a “runt” employee makes us feel more secure about our jobs

When there is someone else to blame about the team’s performance and production, a person or group can feel more secure about their job(s). Why not? It’s always someone else who is not producing to organizational standards, right? Pointing the finger or shifting blame is easy and common in the workplace.

So what do you do when someone attempts to pull you into their game of demeaning others. The best way is to stop the person and take the lead in the conversation by saying sometime like, “Let’s go talk to ‘Bob’ together and see if we can work this out.” Most of the time the person doing the gossiping will stop. Don’t buy into their game. Rather build a culture of respect and dignity.

Have you been the object of someone else’s wrath in the workplace? How did you feel? Have you seen this scenario play out in the workplace?

Endnotes:
1. How serious a problem is workplace bullying? by Terry Parker. Times and Transcript, Wednesday October 6th, 2010. http://timestranscript.canadaeast.com/news/article/1250675
2. Workplace Bullying: What Everyone needs to Know. Department of Labor and Industries. April 2008. http://www.lni.wa.gov/safety/research/files/bullying.pdf